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The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire (20th Anniversary Edition) Audio CD – Unabridged, September 4, 2018
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In the decades since the initial publication of The Way of the Superior Man, society has changed significantly. Issues of gender and sexuality long confined to secrecy have become part of everyday conversation, and rigid ideas about our societal roles have begun to dissolve.
And yet, perhaps now more than at any time, men of all ages still "tussle with the challenges of women, work, and sexual desire." In this unabridged audiobook of the classic guide to masculine spirituality, David Deida encourages men and women to lean into the conversation and offer their most valuable assets to the world―their authentic heart and depth of presence.
More relevant than ever, The Way of the Superior Man offers a view of a more conscious and embodied masculinity. "It is time to evolve beyond the macho jerk ideal, all spine and no heart," writes Deida. "It is also time to evolve beyond the sensitive and caring wimp ideal, all heart and no spine."
Including a new preface written in celebration of the book’s 20th anniversary, The Way of the Superior Man presents the next generation of with the opportunity to grapple with fear, cultivate trust in the moment, and put forth the best versions of themselves in an ever-changing world.
Read by Cecil Archbold.
- Print length5 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherSounds True
- Publication dateSeptember 4, 2018
- Dimensions5.47 x 0.81 x 5.01 inches
- ISBN-101683642686
- ISBN-13978-1683642688
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“The Way of the Superior Man lays out a challenge before all men to fulfill their true purpose and to be authentically masculine. It will guide you on your journey to a successful and spiritually complete way of life. Step up to the plate with this book in your hand.” ―Tony Robbins, author of Awaken the Giant Within and Unlimited Power
“David Deida must have the biggest balls in contemporary spirituality.” ―Vijay Rana, Watkins Mind Body Spirit
“As a woman, I’ve never felt so understood and validated.” ―Marci Shimoff, coauthor of Chicken Soup for the Woman’s Soul
“The openness, the love! What lively new language David Deida finds for the unsayable!” ―Coleman Barks, author of The Essential Rumi
“Every once in a while, someone comes along whose work is clearly a next step. Their ideas seem to answer some collective question hanging out in the culture. Their books and seminars become an underground buzz and, within a period of time, their ideas become part of our cultural vernacular. David Deida is such a person. In a time not too far off from now, his ideas will have spread like wildfire.” ―Marianne Williamson, author of A Return to Love
“Finally, a guide for the non-castrated male. This book will offend and infuriate some, inspire and test others, but challenge virtually everybody. Few are the books that discuss strong sexuality within strong spirituality. Love it or loathe it, it is a shout from the heart of one perspective of the eternal masculine.” ―Ken Wilber, author of Sex, Ecology, Spirituality; No Boundary; and Grace and Grit
“There are few categories I know of for an original like David Deida; for his teachings there is no pigeonhole. He is a bridge-builder between East and West, between ancient and modern wisdom traditions. David is in the dynamic living oral tradition of maverick spiritual teachers who, like free-jazz musicians, can riff directly on Reality, outside of established forms. Mark my words: in a future that I hope is not too far off, David Deida’s original western Dharma will be widely known as one of the most sublime and accessible expressions of the essence of spiritual practice that is freely offered today.” ―Lama Surya Das, author of Awakening the Buddha Within
“David Deida’s work reveals a depth of loving the human condition and understanding its immanent spirituality I’ve seldom seen, even in a glimmer. It’s hard for me to find words with which to express my appreciation and admiration for this unique gift.” ―Jenny Wade, PhD, author of Changes of Mind
“David Deida brings spirituality down from the clouds and back into our bodies where it belongs. His no-nonsense approach to refining our spiritual sensibilities comes as a welcome intervention to both New Age and conservative trends in contemporary spirituality. Deida helps us to get REAL in a world where reality is an increasingly rare commodity.” ―Mariana Caplan, author of Halfway Up the Mountain: The Error of Premature Claims to Enlightenment
“I feel that Deida has reached a new level of poetic genius in his writing, and his understanding of feminine psychology astounds me.” ―Miranda Shaw, PhD, author of Passionate Enlightenment: Women in Tantric Buddhism
“The Way of the Superior Man is a bold and challenging and very perceptive book. The cutting-edge masculinity of these pages is sexually strong and spiritually clear . . . Deida challenges and instructs men to live on their edge, to go forth uncompromisingly in search of their own deepest truths and greatest purpose. He pulls no punches and brooks no weakness.” ―NAPRA Review
“With uncommon honesty and unparalleled insight into the deepest desires of the masculine heart, Deida explores the most challenging and important issues in men’s lives. Covering everything from work and career, to dealing with sex, women, and love, to finding purpose in an increasingly superficial and mechanical world, The Way of the Superior Man reveals how a man can live a life of fulfillment without compromise by relaxing into the truth of his very being, discovering his deepest vision, and giving his gifts without holding anything back. What emerges is a wholly revolutionary look at what it means to be a man in today’s world as well as an astonishingly practical guidebook to living a masculine life of integrity, authenticity, and freedom.” ―The Midwest Book Review, Reviewer’s Choice
About the Author
Cecil Archbold is a voice actor whose voice has a highly authoritative and persuasive characteristic. His voice embodies confidence and power with tones that are warm and inviting. Cecil's versatility enables him to smoothly transition between voice-over roles requiring an urban, contemporary feel to those that specify a middle-American sound. He can provide voice-overs for commercials, corporate narration, eLearning, radio imaging, promotions, medical narration, and documentaries.
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- Publisher : Sounds True; Unabridged edition (September 4, 2018)
- Language : English
- Audio CD : 5 pages
- ISBN-10 : 1683642686
- ISBN-13 : 978-1683642688
- Dimensions : 5.47 x 0.81 x 5.01 inches
- Best Sellers Rank: #2,913,370 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
- #8,328 in Sex & Sexuality
- #11,865 in Love & Romance (Books)
- #14,294 in Books on CD
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Acknowledged as one of the most insightful and provocative teachers of our time, bestselling author David Deida continues to revolutionize the way that men and women grow spiritually and sexually. His ten books are published in more than twenty-five languages worldwide and are required reading in university, church, and spiritual center courses. His workshops on a radically practical spirituality have been hailed as among the most original and authentic contributions to the field of self-development currently available. Deida is included in the Watkins Review Spiritual 100 List, designating the most spiritually influential people worldwide. He is a founding member of Integral Institute, and has taught and conducted research at the University of California-San Diego School of Medicine, University of California-Santa Cruz, San Jose State University, Lexington Institute in Boston, and Ecole Polytechnique in Paris, France. Some of his recent books include Blue Truth, The Enlightened Sex Manual, and the 20th Anniversary Edition of the international bestseller, The Way of the Superior Man.
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Customers consider this book a must-read for every man, praising its readability and profound impact on their lives. Moreover, the book provides valuable insights into masculine and feminine traits, and customers find it honest and worth the investment. However, the writing quality receives mixed reviews, with some finding it clearly articulated while others find it simplistic. Additionally, the pacing receives criticism for being nonsensical and weird.
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- Reviewed in the United States on April 5, 2025the information this book provided i have Neva heard before dat was the unique part of the book its new info and the info was all true and facts and things i've experienced before but Neva tried the outcome this book is suggesting...best book i ever read changed my life and put me ona path to my inner core wit the conscious knowledge of feminine and masculine polarity
- Reviewed in the United States on December 7, 2024What did I like or dislike?
- I liked that it took into account that the difference of man and woman is something to be cherished and that we actually need each other to live a fulfilling life.
That it is important to understand how you can achieve a state flow of your being when you accept the nature of the sexes.
Maybe I disliked sometimes the wording that was chosen, but that is personal preference, I am not a big fan of very esoteric things, and for that part it is very raw to real life examples only sometimes lashed into words that can be hard to equate to some meaningful lesson.
Whom would I recommend this book to?
- To any Men who feel like they are out of touch with their purpose and have had bad experiences with women, it will teach you why it is your task to have a fulfilling relationship with your opposite.
Why did I choose this rating?
- Because it is a great read and the information presented is always concise with the intro of each chapter. There lies some true wisdom here which you only get from a lot of practice in sex, love and relationships that is very condensed here.
- Reviewed in the United States on March 27, 2025Learned so much about men and women and how we operate in today's society. Must read asap for anyone interested in self growth and understanding the opposite sex. Amazing read done in 3 days.
- Reviewed in the United States on February 8, 2025This book is so necessary for the modern man today and help me through hard times in my marriage and turn ultimately know what my vision is and pursue with all of me. It also don't need to embrace suffering and to love through my fear and insecurity. Must read for all men!
- Reviewed in the United States on November 9, 2011I am giving this book 4 stars. For myself, it is a 5 star book, but for men seeking enlightenment on the subject of women and relationships, do not expect to find "answers" here. The answers are in the practice of applying the concepts described in this book, and the book does not describe in detail exactly how to do that, and rightfully so, because such techniques cannot be taught in the pages of a book, they must be experienced first hand.
Deida's work resides entirely within the concepts of polarity and energetics. These are things that are currently unmeasurable by scientific instruments, just as DNA and subatomic particles were not so long ago. If you are looking for clear cut scientific "facts" on the subject of men and women, then look elsewhere because you won't find them here. Deida's work is based on truths that you won't find in science for years to come, but if you do not require "scientific facts", and you are simply wise enough to look and feel inside yourself for what is true and what is not, Deida speaks more truth on the subject of men and women, relationships, polarity and love than any sect of Tantra, Yoga or any individual doctor, sex therapist, or pick up artist out there.
When Deida talks about the feminine and masculine, he is purely talking about energy, NOT the physical body of a man or woman. The masculine energy is defined by traits, the feminine energy is defined by traits, and the polarity between the two creates a balance in which the entire universe sympathetically operates.
If the Big Bang is the purest form of the feminine essence, than gravity, dark matter, dark energy, and black holes would be the purest form of the masculine essence. This relationship, the ying and the yang, the duality of the universe, has been present from the beginning of time, and is found in everything, especially within ourselves and our partners. Deida's work is to define these polarities so a man and a woman can simply recognize them for what they are and work with them as they wish. His work does provide solutions to create a definitive balance between the two, and these solutions are simply tools to keep your relationship absolutely delicious.
Being a man myself, I was initially resentful of the fact that in Deida's eyes, men are required to do all of the "work" in the relationship, while the woman expand into chaos. But when you truly understand the work and the teachings Deida is talking about, it becomes apparent that the woman's role in being absolutely vulnerable, carefree, and not defaulting to their own masculine mind due to a lack of trust in their man is equally as hard, if not harder than what the masculine is required to do.
A woman can easily assume the role of the masculine energy, while the man assumes the feminine. It's actually very common in Western Culture today. As long as the polarity exists, the relationship will always be delicious, despite the ups and downs; it just requires hard work and daily practice from both partners to achieve it.
My girlfriend and I have been practicing Deida's work for a year. It's insane. The ability to literally recreate the feeling of having taken ecstasy simply by engaging your partner is well worth the discipline, or maintain full body orgasms for 30 minutes, 4 times a day isn't bad either.
And what does it all add up to? Well, nothing. It's simply all for the sake of creating art through love while we're here. It's to be of service to others, to give our greatest gift, to experience love on a level very few people in their entire life will ever experience, and to die. There are no secrets to life buried in this book. You practice and serve your relationship, simply to experience love like it has never been experienced before.
This book is not a quick fix. You don't just read it and have all the answers. Honestly, if you read this book and try to apply some of the advice given, you will probably apply it incorrectly and it won't work because you will be missing the energetics involved. There is a teaching that needs to coincide with these words, that unless you seek those teachings and put them into practice, you won't find all that much value here besides an interesting read and possibly a doorway into a new kind of life style.
This path is a hard one, but it is real and it is powerful. Women will find themselves insanely attracted to you and often times, might not entirely know why. It usually starts with men breathing properly, standing properly, and keeping their mouths shut.
If you're willing to learn and actually apply the concepts in this book, and seek out the teachings that go with it, you will find fulfillment in your life and your relationship that transcends everything.
Since getting involved in Deida's work, my girlfriend and I have dedicated every waking moment to it, and we have not looked back since.
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- CallumReviewed in Australia on September 2, 2024
5.0 out of 5 stars Great read
I wish I read this book sooner, lots to learn and take on as a male trying to understand everything in a woman (if that’s possible). Will be a book I read again to really imbed it in the brain.
- SyahmimReviewed in Singapore on May 4, 2024
5.0 out of 5 stars A different outlook
It provides a look into different aspects of life. It encourages men to view challenges and resistances as opportunities for personal development and to understand our relationships.
- MahmoudReviewed in the United Arab Emirates on February 17, 2025
5.0 out of 5 stars Good
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- LumendeusReviewed in Sweden on May 6, 2022
5.0 out of 5 stars One of the greatest books in the world
Just buy it already.
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JacekReviewed in France on August 14, 2023
5.0 out of 5 stars Meilleur livre pour homme
Super livre pour les hommes au 21eme siècles a lire a 100%