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I was at a beautiful Memorial Day pool party with my best friends when I learned that my mother was complicit in my father raping my brothers.
My father had died.
The secrets were coming out.
My mother asked me, "Am I a bad mother because of what happened to your brother?"
My father had died.
The secrets were coming out.
My mother asked me, "Am I a bad mother because of what happened to your brother?"
I said, "Of course not! How could you - if you didn't know, you couldn't do anything about it."
The pause felt like centuries.
"I mean, if you didn't know, right mom?!"
that fucking pause
She admitted, "I knew, I just buried it so I could get on every day."
The pause felt like centuries.
"I mean, if you didn't know, right mom?!"
that fucking pause
She admitted, "I knew, I just buried it so I could get on every day."
I don't remember the rest of the conversation but as a person who was raised to fawn, I am quite sure I made her feel better about it in some way.
I returned to my friends, stunned. In a total zombie-like state.
So many things fell into place. SO much made sense.
Why she was
I returned to my friends, stunned. In a total zombie-like state.
So many things fell into place. SO much made sense.
Why she was
apoplectic at my father bringing home a young mother with a small child. It seemed like the right thing to do. She was fleeing an abusive situation.
But my mother knew too well that she was walking into another abusive situation.
I remembered when I was 15 and my mother told me
But my mother knew too well that she was walking into another abusive situation.
I remembered when I was 15 and my mother told me
to not let my dad be alone w a young neighbor boy. It made no sense at the time but now makes all the sense in the world.
She knew.
She knew and she let him do it.
Then - for the rest of my brother's life - she gaslighted him that it never happened. She admonished him to be
She knew.
She knew and she let him do it.
Then - for the rest of my brother's life - she gaslighted him that it never happened. She admonished him to be
respectful to his dad. She blamed him for his addictions. She gave him tough love when what he needed was to be believed & helped.
She let him wander his days thinking that nobody believed him.
She let him be homeless.
She let him be discarded.
& she KNEW. She KNEW the whole
She let him wander his days thinking that nobody believed him.
She let him be homeless.
She let him be discarded.
& she KNEW. She KNEW the whole
time.
She knew when he bought her diamonds & gold. She knew when he took her on cruises. She knew when they went to Mexico & donated books to an orphanage.
She knew and she let it happen anyway.
She served up the most vulnerable member of her family to appease the abuser.
She knew when he bought her diamonds & gold. She knew when he took her on cruises. She knew when they went to Mexico & donated books to an orphanage.
She knew and she let it happen anyway.
She served up the most vulnerable member of her family to appease the abuser.
Republicans knew.
Republicans knew that Trump was a mobster.
A cheat.
A thief.
A rapist.
A traitor.
They knew everything that he was AND THEY LET HIM DO IT.
They knew he was in league w our enemies and they held the door open for him.
They rolled out the red carpet.
Republicans knew that Trump was a mobster.
A cheat.
A thief.
A rapist.
A traitor.
They knew everything that he was AND THEY LET HIM DO IT.
They knew he was in league w our enemies and they held the door open for him.
They rolled out the red carpet.
And then they collaborated w him to harm the most vulnerable among us. They are serving up the people that need the most help.
They are letting our most vulnerable targets be stripped of education, social services, & protection.
And it makes sense. They are the same as he is.
They are letting our most vulnerable targets be stripped of education, social services, & protection.
And it makes sense. They are the same as he is.
They know - if they let him do what he wants - they get to take turns. They can rob our coffers. They make vulnerable populations with a swish of a budget pen. They can create a whole country of delicious targets. Every dream come true.
And all they have to do is let him do it.
And all they have to do is let him do it.
My mom had hands heavy w gold and diamonds. She had vacations and new cars. She had nice clothes & fancy food.
While my brother was homeless. A victim. A target. Alone.
It was an easy choice for her. She didn't have to live it & she got all the benefits.
Just like republicans
While my brother was homeless. A victim. A target. Alone.
It was an easy choice for her. She didn't have to live it & she got all the benefits.
Just like republicans
The republicans have tipped the scales in advantage of the abusers. So every single one of them gets a turn.
It is time to tip the scales toward justice.
It is time to tip the scales toward justice.
They know what a monster he is and they love him twice as much for it
www.rawstory.com/tommy-tuberville-christian-faith/
www.rawstory.com/tommy-tuberville-christian-faith/
Kevin McCarthy 'standing by' George Santos amid felony charges
Criminality is a plus!
www.rawstory.com/george-santos-kevin-mccarthy/
Criminality is a plus!
www.rawstory.com/george-santos-kevin-mccarthy/
They only heroes for republicans - are monsters
They are fine w all the suffering as long as they get power over the vulnerable too
www.salon.com/2023/05/08/what-has-gotten-into-women/
www.salon.com/2023/05/08/what-has-gotten-into-women/
They all knew - and they let him do it anyway
www.salon.com/2023/05/10/it-was-really-bad-two-ex-aides-say-they-witnessed-harassment-in-the/
www.salon.com/2023/05/10/it-was-really-bad-two-ex-aides-say-they-witnessed-harassment-in-the/
All I wanted was to be safe from a predictable injury
The very first boundary I tried to set.
The very first boundary I tried to set.
Being safe is what all Americans want. But when targets of abuse ask for safety - we get the riot police
blacklivesmatter.com/
blacklivesmatter.com/
And they will hurt us any way they can
Republicans ‘holding economy hostage’
www.theguardian.com/us-news/live/2023/may/10/george-santos-charges-republican-biden-debt-ceiling-infl...
Republicans ‘holding economy hostage’
www.theguardian.com/us-news/live/2023/may/10/george-santos-charges-republican-biden-debt-ceiling-infl...
It should be easy to reject a criminal.
They won't - he's one of their own.
www.msnbc.com/rachel-maddow-show/maddowblog/verdict-carroll-case-many-republicans-flunk-easy-test-rcn...
They won't - he's one of their own.
www.msnbc.com/rachel-maddow-show/maddowblog/verdict-carroll-case-many-republicans-flunk-easy-test-rcn...
'Still Love Him': A Round-Up of Wild GOP Responses to the Trump Sexual Battery Verdict
One senator said the ruling "makes me want to vote for [Trump] twice." One said it's "not a disqualifier" for POTUS. Others pretended they just hadn't seen it.
jezebel.com/still-love-him-a-round-up-of-wild-gop-responses-to-the-1850424719
One senator said the ruling "makes me want to vote for [Trump] twice." One said it's "not a disqualifier" for POTUS. Others pretended they just hadn't seen it.
jezebel.com/still-love-him-a-round-up-of-wild-gop-responses-to-the-1850424719
There is one rule in abuse world - you don't say anything about the head abuser
"'New lows in gutlessness': Trump's GOP rivals shredded for silence after sexual abuse verdict"
www.rawstory.com/new-lows-in-gutlessness-trump-s-gop-rivals-shredded-for-silence-after-abuse-verdict/...
"'New lows in gutlessness': Trump's GOP rivals shredded for silence after sexual abuse verdict"
www.rawstory.com/new-lows-in-gutlessness-trump-s-gop-rivals-shredded-for-silence-after-abuse-verdict/...
And there are so many lessons we all need to know
This is a relevant story with excellent insights www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/politics/a40116993/why-are-so-many-survivors-supporting-johnny-depp/
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Ellen Hopkins @EllenHopkinsLit
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May 10, 2023
You should read this thread.